Archive | March, 2012

Love

17 Mar

This entry is kinda dedicated to the drama that I have been watching recently because it has really changed my perception of many things in life. I believe that many of my friends on Twitter would know what drama I am referring to and after tonight, most of my Facebook friends would too. And this drama is none other than <<On Call 36 小時>>. As a loyal follower of TVB dramas, I knew beforehand that this would be a drama to look forward to but I did not expect it to be so enlightening and addictive per se. It does have a good cast but it is a great show because of the contents, the acting and the meaning that it is trying to bring across to its viewers. As you journey through the life of the doctors (the housemen and the main leads) in the show, you will be able to feel how it is like to be a doctor. Without a doubt, everyone knows that being a doctor is an extremely daunting profession but as I watched the show, I understand that the fearful part of being a doctor is not about the amount of IQ that one has to have to read medicine as his/her major but it is about how one can be a good doctor. One who could save, give and engage the lives of people. Not just their patients but also their loved ones. Being a doctor is not just plainly about prolonging the patient’s life but to give the best treatment to him/her. For example, there is this patient in the show whereby he is middle-aged and diagnosed with cancer at the terminal stage. Operating on him would give him an extra 6 months of life but the risk of this operation is extremely high and that the patient does not want to go through anymore pain. However, if the patient does not go under the knife, he would be left with only 1 month to live. As a doctor, what should you do?? Of course, as a viewer, I am in no position to comment on this highly professional matter but what I am trying to bring across is, this show is really addictive and enlightening as it brings up numerous topics pertaining to love and life.

As episodes went by, the female lead is diagnosed with intramedullary tumor (it is basically a tumor in the spinal cord and an operation might not even be able to successfully remove the whole tumor. A failure in the operation would lead to the patient being paralyzed). Typical shows would have the male and female leads falling in love with each other and of course this drama is no other than any typical TVB drama. From how the female lead managed to move the male lead with her ‘a-card-per-day’, to the male lead eventually falls for her as well, to the female lead is diagnosed with the illness and thus left him. All these are your typical everyday drama plot details. However, what touches me is how the male lead managed to assure her that he is willing to accompany her no matter what would happen to her after the operation.

During the last episodes, one of the couples in the show were getting married and during their wedding, the male lead saw how touched the female lead was when the marriage vows were being read. He finally took up the courage to pull the female lead up on stage and proposed to her again, reading the marriage vow to her in front of all their friends and family members. This is the marriage vow in Chinese –> 無論富季貧困,快樂悲傷,健康疾病 都願意一生一世愛護你,守護­你,終生不諭.

Well, not many people have actually really paid much attention to these few short sentences whenever they were to attend a wedding or even the couple which was getting married. And this was what the male lead told her –> 你還猶豫什麼?擔心我會後悔?擔心我是一時衝動?擔心我要一輩子照顧你? 其實結婚既誓詞,如果只係循例咁讀出嚟,係無意義,一定要實行落去。 後生個陣,又靚又健康,當然”愛”啦,但係,當對方年紀漸漸大­,又老又有皺紋,越來越多病痛,什至乎睇住對方老死…唔通咁就唔­愛咩?既然將來,唔會離棄對方,宜家都應該一樣。 如果因為對方有病就唔愛嘅,就唔係真正嘅愛。無人知道生命既長短,就算我地做醫生既,都唔可以保證自己長命百­歲。 所以結婚誓詞裡面無話到”百頭到老” 但係就要保證,無論健康疾­病,都要係埋一齊。 你明唔明呀? And this is so true.

To be together with somebody is never hard. You would be able to spend loads of happie times together, doing many happie things together etc. However, would you be able to spend the rest of your life with somebody if he/she is no longer able to give you happiness, for example he/she is paralyzed and is no longer able to go places with you with ease??

This is life. Life is full of love. Without love, I am pretty sure one would not be able to live his/her life happily. This is because love gives us the energy, the motivation, the encouragement for each and everything that we do. Nobody is able to predict how long one would live. Yes, it is true that as technology improves, we are all expected to live a much longer life but without love, is it still meaningful to live for 100 years?? Love is not just about a couple, it is also about loving your family, your friends and of course loving of one self. If you do not even love yourself, do you think you are even worthy of somebody else’s love?? Even with an expectedly longer lifespan, nobody is able to accurately tell you when you are going to end your life. NOT a doctor, NOT a fortune teller. NOBODY. We will never be able to know what would happen the very next day. You might say that, ” Oh, I know that I would wake up and have breakfast.” What you might not know is that maybe you might wake up in the morning, go to the toilet to wash up yourself but to slip and fall?? That might possibly be the end of one’s life. How about you might munch on some cereal that is unknowingly poisonous during its production. That might also be the end of one’s life. And seriously, do you even know if you were to wake up the very next morning??

Many people live their lives not knowing what they are even after or what they would like to achieve in life. That is very common. Many of us would have the chance to come across things or people that are dear to us but we did not know how to cherish or treasure them until they are gone for good. That is very common.

In the show, one of the doctors told the female lead, when he knew that she was diagnosed with the illness, ” 健康的人不一定快乐,但有病的人也不一定不快乐啊. ” Most importantly, we should fully understand that each and everyone of us is extremely fortunate to be given a chance to come to this world, to live a meaningful life. Putting aside all the religious views, this is our one and only chance to live. Why don’t we live it to the fullest??

For those, including myself, I hope that we would be able to learn how to treasure what we have, especially the ones who are closed to us. Our family members. Sometimes, we might feel that they are troublesome and annoying and stuff like that. When one day they were to be gone forever, we might feel sorry for not spending more time with them, understanding them more. It is a definite fact that each and every one of us is different and born with a different character. Try talking to them for just 5-10 minutes everyday and this would really do wonders to the relationship. I believe that communication is very important in all relationships. Nobody would be able to understand one another by guessing and thinking. I am trying my best too to do so, spending a little more time talking to my mummy everyday and also a little more time with my family. I am very sure I will not live to regret doing so and I would be able to understand my family a little more everyday. And for those who are in a relationship, I hope that you would be able to understand and give in to each other a little more everyday. When he/she is gone, there is really no point crying and mauling over it because you did not treasure it when you were having it. Been there, done that. Am still learning but this show definitely enlightened me pretty much. To find somebody who is willing to walk the path with you is never easy. It is never easy. And lastly, before I forget. There was also this scene whereby the male lead finally proposed to the female lead after the operation in a proper manner. He said, ” 我爱你这三个字我可以跟你说无数次,但‘我愿意’这三个字我想听你说一次. ” I love this part too because I also come to realise that it is never hard to say the 3 words ‘I love you’ but to have somebody to be willing to say ‘I do’ and to mean it together with the marriage vow. I believe it is never easy too.

Treasure. Cherish. These words are easily said but how many can really put them into action?? Hope you will be the next one.

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Random post to vent anger.

7 Mar

Okay, this is going to be an ultra short post because I am really pissed off by something. Just finished watching episode 16 of a currently airing HK drama about doctors and I decided to check out on the ratings for the drama as it’s pretty nice in my opinion. Ratings are pretty good, averaging 30 points thus far. Well, this is not what pissed me off of course.

After checking out on the ratings, I turned on my funshion to see whether there are any new movies available and saw something that angered me. They are promoting the medical drama that I am watching and yet again they are ‘selling’ it as a drama that is a ‘copycat’ of what was broadcasted in another country. I am seriously sick and tired of all these people who are always commenting that HK dramas are just a photocopy of their country’s serials. Come on, the setting of the drama and stuff might be similar but oh please, you can produce your own drama, why can’t we? It is not as though you people are the first to produce dramas regarding doctors? Moreover, you are not the first to ‘invent’ the term ‘doctors’. I respect whatever you produced so please respect others too. If your country’s dramas received good ratings, I congratulate you. But I really think that it’s disrecpectful to comment that ours’ is a photocopy. Thank you.

Short entry about today.

2 Mar

Before I start: I know that I promised to blog about my Vday’s meetup with the 3 pretty ladies but I did not. I am sorry. I was actually halfway through it but it was way too long for me to continue. However, the meetup will always be in my heart!! Do not worry!!

And so I met my 2 secondary school besties (Edwin and Albert) today for dinner. Had Botak Jones for dinner. Honestly speaking, the dinner was not fantastic but partly it might be due to the fact that I was half full with my Starbucks before that and that I am trying my best to slim down.

Anyway, the food was not important as we started to catch up with one another’s life for the past few months. Although we do not meet frequently as we are, or rather they are, exceptionally busy with their school work, I believe the bond is always there and shall never be broken. Definitely pleased that they shared some problems with me as I am always hoping to be able to lend a listening ear to them and to provide some opinions in one way or another. Bad at trying to bring across my point here but I believe they would understand what I am trying to say.

After listening to what they had to share and also sharing some thoughts with them, I started to think and reflect about the one and single problem that is always hogging on my mind. I also came to discover something new about this. A year and half roughly has passed and I would say I have move on with my life without you. I am truly able to live everyday without you here by my side. I no longer dwell on why we could not have continued previously but instead I would always keep the good times we had in my head. You would always have your special place in my heart. True to the fact that I am able to pass my daily life without you, I still believe that life would be so much better with you around with me. If given a choice, I would still choose you over anybody else.

Again, maybe people who read this entry would not understand what I am trying to say as it seems a bit confusing. I am trying to sort out the words and stuff to describe my feelings now. One thing is for sure though, I have moved on and will no longer sulk about the past.